My new guys foot fetish is just toe weird and its turning me off

Publish date: 2024-06-23

DEAR DEIDRE: MY new boyfriend is obsessed with my feet and it’s turning me off.

His favourite sex act is sucking my toes. He can lick and kiss them for hours, and he gets so turned on by doing this he’s ready to explode.

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We met online and have been seeing each other for three months. I’m 40 and he’s 46.

Nobody else has ever sucked my toes before. I don’t find it unpleasant — in fact, it was quite a turn-on the first couple of times.

But now it’s starting to bother me. To tell the truth, I’ve never really liked my feet — my toes are a bit long and wonky — and I worry that they get a bit stinky in summer.

But my boyfriend thinks they’re the most beautiful part of me. He tells me how elegant my toes are, how smooth the skin is, how much he likes the scent. Last week, when he visited, he poured us each a glass of wine and then asked if he could give me a pedicure!

In fact, I think he fancies my feet more than my face or figure — and that’s making me feel insecure. We have normal sex too, but toe-sucking is always part of the foreplay.

I confided in my best mate about it. She thought it was hilarious and started calling me the Duchess of York. Apparently, Fergie got papped having her toes sucked by an ex-boyfriend years ago, and it was quite the scandal.

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Now I can’t stop thinking about Sarah Ferguson when he does it, and that turns me right off.

I do like this guy, and he’s funny and kind, so I don’t want to break up with him.

But I’d like a normal sex life with someone who wants me, and not just for my feet. What should I do?

DEIDRE SAYS: Feet are an erogenous zone for many people – and toe-sucking isn’t as unusual as you’d think.

There are lots of nerve endings in the toes and soles – which is why feet are so ticklish – and this can equal pleasure.

But it sounds like your new boyfriend is taking things to extremes and his interest in and desire to pleasure your feet may be part of a real foot fetish. My support pack on Fetishes explains more.

If you want this relationship to go further, you need to talk to him about how this is making you feel.

Can you suggest compromises where you indulge in “footplay” every other time when you have sex? Get him at a calm moment – ideally when you’re not in bed, so it doesn’t feel like a rejection – and tell him how you’re feeling.

My support pack on Looking After Your Relationship could help you with this.

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